So far so good...today's my first day home alone with both Matthew & Scarlett. I know a lot of people do this every day so I guess it's silly that I'm stressed about it, but I'm just praying it goes ok. So far Scarlett woke up to eat & went right back to sleep, so it's been a "normal" day for me & Matthew. Scarlett's making some noise though so not sure how much longer normal will last. I know that with time I will learn how to manage both of them, but I still hate the thought of not being able to give them each one on one attention. I am so used to having great days playing with Matthew and while he is good at entertaining himself, I am afraid he will become jealous seeing me feed Scarlett and want that "mommy time" that he's so used to having.
I know it will work out, but I can't help worrying.
Friday, July 27, 2007
Thursday, July 26, 2007
Scarlett's one month appointment
Sorry I haven't been updating - we were in Georgia/Tennesee until Sunday. That was a good trip but my granny is still not doing great. She came home from the hospital Saturday, so that's at least a positive.
Things are busy around here with a newborn and a toddler! Anyway, Scarlett weighs 10 lb 12 oz and is 21" or 21-1/2" long (nurse told me 21-1/2 but doc wrote down 21). Her head is 37 cm now. Doctor says she is perfect...see why I love our pedis!
Things are busy around here with a newborn and a toddler! Anyway, Scarlett weighs 10 lb 12 oz and is 21" or 21-1/2" long (nurse told me 21-1/2 but doc wrote down 21). Her head is 37 cm now. Doctor says she is perfect...see why I love our pedis!
random rambling
Whew - it's been a busy month.
I have been blessed (or cursed?) with more milk than Scarlett can drink. So because of my ever present fear of drying up, I decided to start pumping and freezing it. I know she'll start daycare in a couple of months, so it makes sense to have a "stash". So I started pumping. One day my pump was on the end table ready to go and I decided to grab some water first. I got back to the den and Matthew had the pump shields up at his chest. He obviously has been watching me! It was so cute but I couldn't get to the camera - I would love to have a picture of that!
I am also so pissed a Crib Bedding Superstore. I ordered Scarlett's nursery stuff from them in May. The website said it was "in stock" and "shipped in 2-4 weeks". They immediately charged my credit card but every time I checked the order status it said "waiting on payment confirmation" - what the heck? Time goes by, no update, so I finally call to ask about the status. The person on the phone was not very helpful, although she did tell me my order was scheduled to ship July 9. No big deal, right? I have plenty of bedding from Matthew's baby days. I asked why the delay and she had no answer. Ugh! Then I called again July 5 and asked, they still said it was due to ship July 9. I had a bad feeling about it all so when I happened to see some bedding I liked at Babies 'R Us that weekend (july 8), I bought it. July 10 I called to ask about the status and was told they would not be shipping my order because it was discontinued. So I ask, what kind of company adverstises things on their website as "in stock" if it isn't truly in stock? But the real kicker is that TODAY I got an email with a coupon to THANK ME for my order! WHAT?? If they had any idea how angry I am!
I have been blessed (or cursed?) with more milk than Scarlett can drink. So because of my ever present fear of drying up, I decided to start pumping and freezing it. I know she'll start daycare in a couple of months, so it makes sense to have a "stash". So I started pumping. One day my pump was on the end table ready to go and I decided to grab some water first. I got back to the den and Matthew had the pump shields up at his chest. He obviously has been watching me! It was so cute but I couldn't get to the camera - I would love to have a picture of that!
I am also so pissed a Crib Bedding Superstore. I ordered Scarlett's nursery stuff from them in May. The website said it was "in stock" and "shipped in 2-4 weeks". They immediately charged my credit card but every time I checked the order status it said "waiting on payment confirmation" - what the heck? Time goes by, no update, so I finally call to ask about the status. The person on the phone was not very helpful, although she did tell me my order was scheduled to ship July 9. No big deal, right? I have plenty of bedding from Matthew's baby days. I asked why the delay and she had no answer. Ugh! Then I called again July 5 and asked, they still said it was due to ship July 9. I had a bad feeling about it all so when I happened to see some bedding I liked at Babies 'R Us that weekend (july 8), I bought it. July 10 I called to ask about the status and was told they would not be shipping my order because it was discontinued. So I ask, what kind of company adverstises things on their website as "in stock" if it isn't truly in stock? But the real kicker is that TODAY I got an email with a coupon to THANK ME for my order! WHAT?? If they had any idea how angry I am!
Tuesday, July 10, 2007
weight update
Took Scarlett by the pediatrician's office today for a quick weight check - she's at 8 lbs 14 oz.
Off to Georgia
We are heading out first thing tomorrow, to go to Georgia. My mom and I are driving down with Matthew and Scarlett. David will fly down late next week so he & I can take the children to Tennessee, then we will drive home from TN. I know some people will think I'm crazy to head off on a 15 hour drive with 2 small children, one being a newborn, but it is very important to me that our extended families get to meet Scarlett. We made a similar trip with Matthew when he was about this age and he has always been a good traveller...I'm telling myself starting them early helps. :)
On top of this, we found out today my granny was put in the hospital this morning, so I'm ready to get there! And I'm sure my mom is ready to be there - I know it has been hard for her to be this far from home anyway and then to get this news. So I'll be back in a couple of weeks, hopefully with good news about my granny & reports that Scarlett is as good in the car as Matthew is!
On top of this, we found out today my granny was put in the hospital this morning, so I'm ready to get there! And I'm sure my mom is ready to be there - I know it has been hard for her to be this far from home anyway and then to get this news. So I'll be back in a couple of weeks, hopefully with good news about my granny & reports that Scarlett is as good in the car as Matthew is!
Wednesday, July 4, 2007
what the heck?
So, my mother-in-law was supposed to fly in today for a visit. This trip has been scheduled for over a month now - it was going to be her chance to meet Scarlett and spend some time with Matthew. We were lucky enough with our due date that my mom was out of school so her schedule is extremely flexible so we asked her to come and see about Matthew while I was in the hospital. I also wanted her to stay for a while afterwards until things were pretty smooth, just to keep me from being stressed out. We decided that she & my dad would come up, then he would go home & she would stay for a little longer, then she & I would take Matthew & Scarlett to visit/meet family in GA, then David would come down & he & I would go to TN to visit/meet more family. Complicated yes, but not terrible.
So apparently David's mom has NOW decided it hurts her feelings that we didn't ask for her help immediately. I don't know, but doesn't it just make sense that when my mom doesn't have to work and can come up at a moment's notice, not to mention, she's my mom and women are almost always going to feel more comfortable with their own mom than with their husband's mom, anyway, doesn't it just make sense that I would ask for my mom's help? I won't even get into how much she hurt my/our feelings when Matthew was born, and how stressful it was to have her here, but yes, that also factored into our decision to ask her to come in July instead of immediately.
So here we are, last night David gets email from his mom telling him she's not coming, even though we've been planning for OVER a month for her to be here. Yes, my mom is still here and will be until I feel ready for her to go home, but she's made plans to do things away from our house for a couple of days to give my mother-in-law some time with us alone. Anyway, this time isn't about me, or David, or my mom, it's about Matthew & Scarlett. But apparently my mother-in-law thinks it is only about HER, because she has decided to cancel her trip. She told David a couple of days ago that she doesn't "feel needed". well boo hoo. He got upset over it and they discussed it, but then last night she emailed him that she was cancelling the trip due to "the heightened security she doesn't feel safe flying". We all know that's a load of crap...she's mad because we chose to have my parents come help instead of asking for her help so she's making up excuses. I think she probably expected us to beg her to come, but she should know us better than that.
So anyway, I'm mad about this only because I think about how this must make David feel. He's a man so I'm not sure he's being completely honest about his feelings and when I think about how I'd feel if MY parents treated me like this....
I also feel sorry for her because ultimately she's hurting herself the most. She's not going to see her first granddaughter for almost 2 months, she's not going to realize what an absolute joy her second grandson is. I know they are my children, but Scarlett is so precious already, and Matthew is just amazing...he's such a loving little boy and so much fun at this age (ok, I keep saying that at every "age"), and here she is passing up the opportunity to spend time with them. She is truly missing out.
It also pisses me off because of all the stress I felt about making sure we were "home and settled" before she got here. Not that that part really matters, but it just annoys me even more.
There are so many problems in the past and I have really worked to have a good relationship with her, I have struggled after the incidents when Matthew was born, but I thought I was doing ok. Now I just don't think I can ever get over it all. Still, it's not about me and I will try for my children's and husband's sakes to have a good relationship with her.
So apparently David's mom has NOW decided it hurts her feelings that we didn't ask for her help immediately. I don't know, but doesn't it just make sense that when my mom doesn't have to work and can come up at a moment's notice, not to mention, she's my mom and women are almost always going to feel more comfortable with their own mom than with their husband's mom, anyway, doesn't it just make sense that I would ask for my mom's help? I won't even get into how much she hurt my/our feelings when Matthew was born, and how stressful it was to have her here, but yes, that also factored into our decision to ask her to come in July instead of immediately.
So here we are, last night David gets email from his mom telling him she's not coming, even though we've been planning for OVER a month for her to be here. Yes, my mom is still here and will be until I feel ready for her to go home, but she's made plans to do things away from our house for a couple of days to give my mother-in-law some time with us alone. Anyway, this time isn't about me, or David, or my mom, it's about Matthew & Scarlett. But apparently my mother-in-law thinks it is only about HER, because she has decided to cancel her trip. She told David a couple of days ago that she doesn't "feel needed". well boo hoo. He got upset over it and they discussed it, but then last night she emailed him that she was cancelling the trip due to "the heightened security she doesn't feel safe flying". We all know that's a load of crap...she's mad because we chose to have my parents come help instead of asking for her help so she's making up excuses. I think she probably expected us to beg her to come, but she should know us better than that.
So anyway, I'm mad about this only because I think about how this must make David feel. He's a man so I'm not sure he's being completely honest about his feelings and when I think about how I'd feel if MY parents treated me like this....
I also feel sorry for her because ultimately she's hurting herself the most. She's not going to see her first granddaughter for almost 2 months, she's not going to realize what an absolute joy her second grandson is. I know they are my children, but Scarlett is so precious already, and Matthew is just amazing...he's such a loving little boy and so much fun at this age (ok, I keep saying that at every "age"), and here she is passing up the opportunity to spend time with them. She is truly missing out.
It also pisses me off because of all the stress I felt about making sure we were "home and settled" before she got here. Not that that part really matters, but it just annoys me even more.
There are so many problems in the past and I have really worked to have a good relationship with her, I have struggled after the incidents when Matthew was born, but I thought I was doing ok. Now I just don't think I can ever get over it all. Still, it's not about me and I will try for my children's and husband's sakes to have a good relationship with her.
Tuesday, July 3, 2007
Scarlett's one week check-up
Scarlett had her first pediatrician visit today. She weighed 7 lbs 9 oz and was 20-1/2 inches long...somehow she's shorter than when she was measured at birth? I know it all depends on who measures and how they do it. The pediatrician said she's doing great :) He was very impressed that she is already above her birth weight. We aren't sure how much weight she lost in the hospital, since we can't read the paperwork and from what we can read it doesn't seem to match what the told us. But it doesn't really matter since she has gained over half a pound from her birth weight!
Monday, July 2, 2007
she's here
So Scarlett Ann made her arrival on June 26 at 11:38am. It was a pretty quick labor, I started having contractions around 4:15 that morning but they didn't hurt at all and they were short so I wrote them off as Braxton Hicks. When they kept coming and I finally had to stop what I was doing during them, I realized that just maybe I was in labor. I called David to come home from work. He came home & packed my bag while I laid in bed.
We left for the hospital a little before 11:00 and got there around 11:20 or so. He handed me off to one of the "transport people" to take to L&D while he took the car to the valet. While they are doing the initial check in they make husbands wait in the waiting room, so I didn't see him again for a while...they kept asking me questions for paperwork and no one checked me until I told them I needed to use the bathroom. (Yeah, I still thought the contrax weren't real...) When I told them I needed to potty they screamed for someone to check me and I was at 9cm. When I heard that I screamed for them to get my husband and get me an epidural! The nurse sent someone after David and told me "honey there's no time for an epidural." They wheel me from the L&D check in rooms to LDR. I get in the bed & tell them I have to push. They are screaming at me not to push but check & I'm at 10cm. My doctor comes rushing in & I tell them I'm pushing. She says "wait I need to get my gloves." I yelled that I couldn't wait & I started pushing. My water broke with my first push and the doctor turned and said oh there's the head! I pushed like 3 times and they told me to stop because the cord was around her neck. That is the only time I could stop the urge to push. They got it unwrapped & I pushed one more time and she was out.
Scarlett weighed 7lbs even and was 20-3/4" long. She is absolutely perfect! She immediately latched on & is nursing great - we've had no problems! It is so much easier than it was with Matthew - I am not sure if it is the unmedicated delivery so she was more alert or if it is because I've done it before...maybe a combination.
So now I have to remember, worry is useless...I spent so much time thinking about being induced and the "what-ifs" and I didn't even need to. Scarlett decided when it was time to come. (And oh yeah, I still have that crud/cough, but somehow had the energy to give birth anyway.)
My parents arrived the next day to take care of Matthew. They brought him to the hospital to visit and that was nice. I think I missed him more than he missed me! We were finally released Thursday morning (stupid hospital policy requires them to keep newborns for 36 hours after birth and of course they wouldn't release us in the middle of the night) and got home around lunchtime. So far Matthew hasn't paid much attention to Scarlett, but when he does it is very loving. He kisses her and calls her "shish-ter".
Matthew is loving having his Grandaddy and Momma Joy here. They are so helpful - entertaining him and taking care of things around the house so David & I can settle in with Scarlett. It makes me fearful of the day I have it "all on my own" when they go home and I have to juggle it all, but I just keep telling myself "I can do it". Only time will tell...
We left for the hospital a little before 11:00 and got there around 11:20 or so. He handed me off to one of the "transport people" to take to L&D while he took the car to the valet. While they are doing the initial check in they make husbands wait in the waiting room, so I didn't see him again for a while...they kept asking me questions for paperwork and no one checked me until I told them I needed to use the bathroom. (Yeah, I still thought the contrax weren't real...) When I told them I needed to potty they screamed for someone to check me and I was at 9cm. When I heard that I screamed for them to get my husband and get me an epidural! The nurse sent someone after David and told me "honey there's no time for an epidural." They wheel me from the L&D check in rooms to LDR. I get in the bed & tell them I have to push. They are screaming at me not to push but check & I'm at 10cm. My doctor comes rushing in & I tell them I'm pushing. She says "wait I need to get my gloves." I yelled that I couldn't wait & I started pushing. My water broke with my first push and the doctor turned and said oh there's the head! I pushed like 3 times and they told me to stop because the cord was around her neck. That is the only time I could stop the urge to push. They got it unwrapped & I pushed one more time and she was out.
Scarlett weighed 7lbs even and was 20-3/4" long. She is absolutely perfect! She immediately latched on & is nursing great - we've had no problems! It is so much easier than it was with Matthew - I am not sure if it is the unmedicated delivery so she was more alert or if it is because I've done it before...maybe a combination.
So now I have to remember, worry is useless...I spent so much time thinking about being induced and the "what-ifs" and I didn't even need to. Scarlett decided when it was time to come. (And oh yeah, I still have that crud/cough, but somehow had the energy to give birth anyway.)
My parents arrived the next day to take care of Matthew. They brought him to the hospital to visit and that was nice. I think I missed him more than he missed me! We were finally released Thursday morning (stupid hospital policy requires them to keep newborns for 36 hours after birth and of course they wouldn't release us in the middle of the night) and got home around lunchtime. So far Matthew hasn't paid much attention to Scarlett, but when he does it is very loving. He kisses her and calls her "shish-ter".
Matthew is loving having his Grandaddy and Momma Joy here. They are so helpful - entertaining him and taking care of things around the house so David & I can settle in with Scarlett. It makes me fearful of the day I have it "all on my own" when they go home and I have to juggle it all, but I just keep telling myself "I can do it". Only time will tell...
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